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What not to do when your spouse files for divorce

On Behalf of | Sep 21, 2023 | Divorce

According to U.S. News and World Report, California’s divorce rate in 2019 was 6.5% per 1000 women. While this is a lower percentage than in many other states, it still represents the unfortunate end to marriages.

If you find yourself facing divorce, it is a good idea to approach the situation with a calm head. When your spouse initiates divorce proceedings, it can be an emotionally charged and challenging time. How you handle the situation can significantly impact the outcome, your well-being and the well-being of your children.

Do not react emotionally

It is natural to experience a flood of emotions when you receive divorce papers. However, reacting impulsively and emotionally can exacerbate the situation. Instead, focus on finding constructive ways to address your concerns and disputes. Take some time to process your feelings and seek support from friends, family or a therapist before responding.

Do not disregard legal documents

When get the divorce papers, take them seriously and respond properly. Failing to respond within the required timeframe can have negative consequences for your case.

Avoid involving children

Divorce is challenging for children, and involving them in parental disputes can be harmful. Shield your children from adult conflicts, and prioritize their emotional well-being throughout the process.

Do not hide assets or information

Concealing assets or withholding financial information during divorce proceedings is not only unethical but also illegal. You must give full financial disclosure. Dishonesty can lead to legal consequences.

Avoid neglecting your finances

Take proactive steps to protect your financial interests. This may include opening separate bank accounts, tracking expenses and consulting a financial advisor to help you make informed decisions.

Do not badmouth your spouse

Speaking negatively about your spouse to friends, family, or on social media can backfire. It can harm your reputation and influence legal proceedings, particularly in child custody cases.

Do not skip co-parenting responsibilities

If you have children, co-parenting is essential. Continue to fulfill your parental duties and maintain consistent communication with your children, regardless of the divorce. Co-parenting agreements can help establish clear expectations.

Do not neglect self-care

Divorce can be emotionally and mentally draining. Prioritize self-care by maintaining healthy routines, seeking emotional support and considering therapy to help you cope with the stress and emotional challenges.

It can be devastating when your spouse files for divorce. You may have a gut reaction and wish to express it. However, taking a calculated approach is likely to be more advantageous to you in the long run, setting the foundation for a healthier post-divorce life for both you and your family.